Pastor Gary Thomas says that marriage isn’t meant to make us happy but holy.3 How many of us sit around and ask how we can be holier? Not me. (I do, however, ask myself how others can be holier!) Marriage accomplishes this naturally. If you’re going to have a successful marriage, be prepared to get over yourself. Fast. And if you have kids—goodness, watch out. That’s where selfishness truly goes to die. My friend Kara once told me, “I never knew how selfish I was until I got married, and I never