do whatever it takes to make the marriage last for keeps. Your level of commitment is the most vital factor in determining the success or failure of your relationship. Cathy and I (Jim) have been married for forty years. We often smile and say that all forty years have been “high maintenance” years. Because of the multiple issues we brought into our marriage, we have had to work hard at our relationship. Today we have a good relationship. When we’re asked the secret to staying close, we always give