a battle. Actually, it can become an opportunity to increase your intimacy and strengthen your marriage. When you work together to seek a resolution, you both win. Consider this comparison: If your primary intent is to defend yourself and win, you won’t get to resolution as a couple. If your intent during conflict is to grow and learn, you must drop your defense and pride and make your issue the target. Make it your common goal to solve the problem as a team and not necessarily to win the individual