Healthy parents know how to separate bad performance from the child’s worth. They are also able to separate a child’s poor performance from their own worth. They can encourage their kids to do better with an appropriate emotional investment in each child’s performance. Another effect of years in the spotlight and chasing perfection is this: trophy children can become narcissistic. They develop an overinflated sense of self-importance. Rules are for others, not them. They are the center of attention