The shock we experience initially is His way of helping us deal with the pain of our loss. It works like a divine tranquilizer that enables us to comprehend the reality of death without feeling the full depth of our devastating loss. As the initial shock wears off, the promise of eternal life with our departed loved one becomes the gift of hope that keeps us going until grief has done its healing work. After the funeral, life returns to something akin to normal for most of your family and friends,