We believe that God could change our instincts, but we have no promise that he will, because blue-blood heterosexuality is not the goal of the Christian life: Jesus is. This chapter may be the most controversial yet. It will argue for a view that is profoundly unpopular in twenty-first-century Western society, and increasingly unpopular in some church settings. But I do not write this because I am a homophobic bigot who just doesn’t get how two women or two men could want each other in an all-consuming