when all has been lost that we can learn to depend on God and not on other things. But we must, like the psalmist, be honest about our suffering with ourselves and others.7 We need to weep honestly at the loss we’ve experienced, but it’s a weeping that is fundamentally grounded in hope. A second way we deal with our grief is to find hope in our loss. Psalm 51:17 says, “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise.” God