Bible, the gospel, is God shouting: “I loved you, but I lost you, and I want you back.”2 I loved you. But I lost you. And I want you back. Men, no matter the state of our marriages, I want us loving our wives with this heaven-sent passion. But we can’t do it until we believe, until we see, that Jesus has first loved us like this. “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph. 5:25). He loved us. He lost us. He got us back. He gave himself up for us so that