the gracious God who created them to do. Take this book as an example. The message of this book is not for husbands to start working hard at dating their wives and then to base their identity, marriage, and standing with God on how well they do at dating their wives. That message would only lead to deeper idolatry in a man’s life—when a husband is performing well he will be proud of himself; when a husband is performing poorly at dating his wife he will be disgusted with himself. Whether it’s good