You will be sexually compatible with someone you love deeply. That’s how it’s designed to work. • “No one will date you if you aren’t willing to ‘put out.’” This is simply not true. More on this in chapter 11, “Real Women Give Nice Guys a Chance.” Stop dating jerks and find a nice guy out there who will respect your boundaries and even share the responsibility with you. He does exist —you’re just dating the wrong guys. • “Whatever you do in high school, at the frat house, on spring break —it’s