accomplishments—even if it’s only by subtly moving conversations toward you and your achievements while fishing for compliments. When you fail or lose, you become depressed, panicked, and devastated, which makes you both miserable and miserable to be around. The truth is that you’re not what you do. You have God-given natural talents, Holy Spirit–endowed gifts, and unique abilities. You also have duties, but these duties do not define you, because your identity is not determined by what you do. Rather,