if she doesn’t want to. As we have said earlier, the quality of our relationship with our children determines the effectiveness of our discipline. When we communicate to our strong-willed kids that we love and respect them, obedience becomes much less of a battle. Deborah will think to herself. “I don’t want to eat this, but mom really wants me to. I know she cares about me and wants what’s best for me. I guess I can choose to finish my dinner anyway.” Amazingly, this same trait of having a strong