Negative thinking tends to beget negative thinking. If you focus on how terrible the situation is, it will get worse. But if you focus on one positive thing in a situation, another will appear. In the darkest night of a miserable marriage, there is always a flickering light. If you focus on that light, it will eventually flood the room. Wendy said, “My husband hasn’t had a full-time job in three years. The good part is not being able to afford cable TV or Netflix. We’ve done a lot more talking in