the opposite of the feeling of love. Love draws you toward the person; anger sets you against the person. But the mind is also active from the very beginning. For example, if Becky asks her husband, Tim, to mow the lawn while she takes the kids shopping, and she comes home hours later and the grass is still shaggy, she may think, If he cared, he would mow the lawn. He knows how much it means to me. I don’t ask for much. What was he doing instead? What HE wanted to do. How selfish. But Tim responds