the direction of becoming more like Christ, the only perfectly loving and whole person to ever walk the planet. Being in love and feeling happy in marriage, though certainly not unimportant and to be enjoyed whenever possible, will be a secondary matter. Let me drive this home with an analogy. I took up golf about fifteen years ago. Let’s assume for a minute that God was the one who wanted me to play golf (which I, however self-servingly, believe to be true). Now, let’s ask the million-dollar question: