agape love is: • • ‌It comes out of your will, not your emotions or your sexual longings toward a person. • • ‌It has a specific goal in mind; it isn’t aimless. • • ‌It isn’t coercive, manipulative, or controlling; it doesn’t force itself on others. • • ‌It attempts to help your loved one grow and mature in a healthy direction; it tries to help your spouse become the Christlike person God meant him or her to be. So here’s the bottom line: God joined you and your spouse together in holy matrimony