vulnerability. (There’s another one.) I want to sit with Stuart Smalley, the old Saturday Night Live character, and say, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!” But like him, I can’t say any number of “daily affirmations” that will convince me. In high school I was lifting weights at the gym with a good friend. He had just benched two hundred pounds. I had yet to approach that weight, but I was closing in, and if he could do it, so could I. Just not, you know, while people