quite a bit of what we’re about to walk through in this book. You might think this makes me a hypocrite, that what I wrote isn’t worth the paper it’s printed on. But I would argue that this hard-learned reality actually makes me more confident in what I am writing. We have personally experienced some of the heartbreak, confusion, and frustration that result from going with the flow of modern relational dynamics. I am aware of the multiple ways I failed to lead us as a couple. But I’m also aware—vividly