way too aggressive.” And I would say that those men are overcompensating for their passivity. That kind of aggressive, obnoxious behavior is a faux masculinity that takes the easy path of reaction and impulse rather than the harder path of peace and patience and servanthood. I’ve seen both extremes time and again, especially in marital counseling. So many men just won’t lead. They won’t step into the fray. They won’t engage. They won’t own what God has given them to own. They say it’s too hard. They