people around us. Inadequate. There’s a third way we identify ourselves though. Desire. A recent article put it this way: “The true self lies precisely in our suppressed urges and unacknowledged emotions.”4 The article continues with a statement that both shocks and seems intuitively true: “To find a moment when a person’s true self comes out … one needs to look at the times when people are so drunk or overcome by passion that they are unable to suppress what is deep within them.”5 So what’s the truest