the decisions I make, to my responses, reactions, attitudes, and behaviors toward my spouse. Oftentimes we make choices but fail to take responsibility for them. Yet marriage is like a mirror because it reflects what’s there. In marriage, another human being is facing us at all times, exposing both our strengths and our struggles just by their presence. And at times, that can cause friction. But that very same friction is what files down our rough edges, forcing us to see the blemishes of our lives