had that feeling long before you committed any of the things you think caused it. In fact, your shame is probably the reason you did the things you did wrong in the first place. Feeling shame makes you feel bad about yourself for being who you are and thus predisposes you to act in bad ways. So as you can see, getting a grip on your shame becomes pretty important. Shame is a deeper and more toxic problem than your guilt, and one that needs your attention. I say “your” here because we all feel shame,