mates? That feels possible when we start out. There is the anticipation of oneness in that first moment when you sense you were destined to be more than friends. There is the sense of oneness in the courtship. The promise of oneness in the engagement period. The declaration of oneness in the wedding vows. The thrill of oneness on the honeymoon. The excitement of oneness as a home is established. Then somewhere along the way, the oneness gets eroded by a subtle separateness. How does that happen? The answer