that build up and give grace are not always soft. It is love that controls the approach. If my mother had softly said, “Stop” in that parking lot, I probably would not be writing this chapter now. Love thundered that message to my young ears. So too the Bible has many words for godly communication: warn, admonish, counsel, speak truth, remind, encourage, exhort, among many others. At times, godly communication proceeds through actions without a word: shedding tears at the side of someone grieving, or