we tend to enter marriage with storybook expectations and limited training. I once asked a college student what kind of man she would like to marry. “I’d like for him to be able to tell jokes, sing and dance, and stay home at night.” “You don’t want a husband,” I told her. “You want a television.” Her visions of a husband reveal one of the most common reasons marriages fail. We marry with unrealistic expectations and few, if any, caring skills. In fact, most of us are rather fuzzy when it comes to