overlook the actual words his wife uses to express herself and instead actively pursue what she means, fewer arguments will take place. Seek out the emotional nuggets that lie beneath the words. One man I know finds it almost impossible to do this. When his wife uses phrases like “You never do this,” or “You always do that,” he will inevitably say, “Now, dear, I don’t always do that,” or “Did I do it yesterday?” Or he begins to analyze her statement to prove its fallacy. In ten minutes, they’re off