family as they are to the adults in the small group. Raise each other’s kids. (More on this in chapter 5.) Because our kids grow up in an increasingly complex and precarious world, filled with expectations and agendas that at times feel impossible to navigate, the odds are great that your child will “cross the line,” or for some of our kids, catapult over the line. What do we do then? Default with compassion. When our kids go through rough spots, whether