pull the parental power card. Usually I waited until we got in the van to mention the hats, without warning or process. They in turn, predictably, would grouse and argue. Finally, when our boys were eleven and fourteen, we had a series of conversations about why they wanted to wear a hat in church and why we didn’t think it was respectful. After that we made progress. (It actually didn’t bother us much, but there were several folks, especially older folks, in our church who were clearly and vocally