with, “I want to tell you something that I’ve never told anyone before,” it’s always sexual. It’s never, “I was at the mall and I backed my car into the car across the parking lot and I didn’t leave a note.” Why is that? Why is there an unparalleled level of shame associated with inappropriate sexual behavior? Why do people carry sexual secrets so long? Two more. Why do husbands and wives feel so betrayed when their spouses have sex with someone else? Why does adultery divide a couple like nothing