“If you want to be free to serve Jesus, there’s no question — stay single. Marriage takes a lot of time. But if you want to become more like Jesus, I can’t imagine any better thing to do than to get married. Being married forces you to face some character issues you’d never have to face otherwise.” I had begun to realize I could further pursue God through marriage and not just in spite of it. Marriage didn’t need to hold me back from my spiritual goals; it could actually help me reach them. Jesus,