Choices are the foundation upon which boundaries are built. But our choices are not true choices unless we are aware of all the aspects of our identity that go into them—our feelings, attitudes, behaviors, wants, and thoughts. To own and make our own choices, we must be aware of all the aspects of ourselves that go into any decision. In addition, we must be aware that we are making a choice about almost everything we do. Let’s take Sandy, for example. If she wants to celebrate Thanksgiving with