To be a pastor often means to subject one’s self to the weaponized disappointments of others. Rather than defend myself, rather than debate, I just decided to take the hits. And then, she said the absolute worst thing I could have heard in that moment: “We know, Jared,” she said, “that the gospel is your thing . . .” The sentiment starts out great. Indeed, I am overjoyed to be thought of as the pastor whose “thing” is the gospel. But it was just a setup for a calamity: “. . . but sometimes,” she