“Mannanites” since the name of our church is Manna Church. People who came were not considered one of us until they had mastered all the hidden rules. No one actually said this, and there wasn’t a secret book of rules in some locked drawer. But knowledge of these do’s and don’ts is what separates newcomers from the “real” members, no matter whose name is on the membership roll. While no one wants to admit it, the unwritten-rules game is really a control game—the way people in small churches protect what they