it, almost like throwing a child into the deep end of the pool and saying, “They’ll learn how to swim eventually.” These parents often rationalize this approach by their own journey. One father told me, “I’m not sure what the big deal is with raising kids. I was practically raised by wolves, and I turned out okay—and here I am back in church. I have a good life now. It all evens out eventually, right?” Neither of these extremes is biblical. The Christian life calls us to be in the world but not of