such as dating, live-in, or marriage. But at times the imbalance of power and control can be seen between adult children and elderly parents, church leaders and their congregations, or in places of employment. Emotional ties, economic dependence, and (in marriage) biblical mandates against divorce keep many individuals feeling trapped and helpless. They have no idea how to change the balance of power. In contrast to an abusive relationship where one person seeks power over another, abusive attitudes