5. Togetherness—Let your child know that you are “with” them, not “against” them. Neither you nor they are the enemy. As family, you are working together, not pulling apart. 6. Touch—Children need your physical touch—hugs, kisses, squeezes, and all kinds of appropriate touch. 7. Thanksgiving—An attitude of gratitude works both ways. Tell your children daily how thankful you are for them and they’ll begin telling you the same. 8. Time—Children need you. Your presence cannot be replaced by stuff. 9.