children. Kids are one of what I call The Big Six: persons and activities that can sneak ahead of your spouse on your priority list. Read my description of The Big Six below, and be honest about which of them you are making more important than your marriage partner. Your Kids Raise your hand if you are placing your kids above your spouse. Go ahead, don’t be ashamed. You have a lot of company. My wife Sandy and I spent years making this mistake. The cold, hard reality of a child-centered home hit me between