Love and Respect principles to a topic like communication. So here are some tips. First, read to understand how to respond to your spouse’s negative behavior. Don’t read to find apt descriptions of what your spouse says or does and then put your spouse on a guilt trip by saying, “See? This is you. This is what you do!” As you go through The Language of Love & Respect, it may be quite easy to find examples of mistakes your spouse is making, but don’t use what you find to attack your spouse. Instead,