On each end of the seesaw there are two extremes we need to avoid: the religion of self-esteem and the religion of regulations. We buy into the religion of self-esteem when we believe that “making sure our child feels good about himself ” is our most important goal. To ensure that our child is happy, we give in to his demands. We can’t bear for him to be miserable, to feel sad. Discipline is difficult for us. Perhaps we were raised in a strict, legalistic home. No matter what we did, it never seemed