“Why?” you’ve effectively torpedoed his attempt to communicate. Asking that is like saying, “Okay, I think you’re stupid. You can’t figure it out by yourself and you might be wrong, so you better explain your reasoning to me so I can help you.” Knowing that kind of puts a new spin on things, doesn’t it? The male ego is much more fragile than you think; it’s easily damaged. Because problem solving is so important to your man—it’s the way he’s wired—it emasculates him for you to ask him, “Why?” Understand