“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” (Matt. 5:43–44) “We want to learn how to fight fair.” When I started marriage counseling with Sharon and Tom, this was their goal. For years, when conflict would surface, they would put on figurative boxing gloves and attack each other. They would jab at each other’s insecurities. They would hit each other below the belt with