years ago I was asked by a college friend to join a men’s small group. This was new territory for me, and I was very unsure what they would do. Would it be a bunch of guys meeting in a sweat lodge giving group hugs for the entire time, or what? We met a couple of hours a week to talk about what was going on in our lives and to ask ourselves the tough questions. It was encouraging. When things got tough with our marriages or our kids or our ministries, we could call day or night. It was challenging. They