Tease and caress the areas around the nipples and genitals before turning attention to the nipples, penis, or clitoris. Both men and women will enjoy a quickie occasionally. They will want their mates to stimulate the genitals with the goal of achieving a rapid orgasm. This is fun and exciting but often fails to achieve the same level of arousal as taking time to tease and play. Men especially need to learn to go from general arousal to specific locations. Be mysterious, surprising, and tantalizing.