2 In fact, I made up my mind about this: I would not come to you on another painful visit.H 2 For if I cause you pain, then who will cheer me other than the one being hurt by me?I 3 I wrote this very thing so that when I came I wouldn’t have pain from those who ought to give me joy, because I am confidentax about all of you that my joy will also be yours. 4 For I wrote to you with many tears out of an extremely troubled and anguished heart—not to cause you pain, but that you should know the abundant love I have for you.