Point

How a Man Can Lead His Family

Man

STEVE

FARRAR

For speaking and conference information, write, e-mail, or call:

Steve Farrar

Men’s Leadership Ministries

4801 Legendary Drive

Frisco, Texas 75034

(800) MEN-LEAD (636–5323)

www.stevefarrar.com

POINT MAN

published by Multnomah Publishers, Inc.

© 1990, 2003 by Steve Farrar

International Standard Book Number: 1–59052-126–9

Cover image of family by Image State

Image of medallion by Greg Tess

Scripture quotations are from:

The Holy Bible, New International Version

1973, 1984 by International Bible Society,

used by permission of Zondervan Publishing House

Other Scripture quotations are from:

New American Standard Bible (nasb)

1960, 1977 by the Lockman Foundation

The Living Bible(tlb)

1971. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.

All rights reserved.

The New Testament in Modern English, Revised Edition(Phillips)

1958, 1960, 1972 by J. B. Phillips

Printed in the United States of America

ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means—electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise—without prior written permission.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Farrar, Steve.

Point man : how a man can lead a family / Steve Farrar.

p. cm.

Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 0–88070-357–1

ISBN 1–59052-126–9

1. Fathers—Religious life. 2. Parenting—Religious aspects—

Christianity. I. Title.

BV4846.F36 1990

248.8’421—dc20 90–37435

CIP

To

James R. Farrar,

my dad,

in appreciation for over forty years

of spiritual leadership

where it really counts.

At home.

Contents

Acknowledgments

Introduction

1. Point Man on Patrol

2. Save the Boys

3. Real Men Don’t

4. A One-Woman Kind of Man

5. Anorexic Men and Their Bulimic Cousins

6. Aerobic Kneeling

7. Husband and Wife Teamwork in the Marriage Cockpit

8. The Birth of a Tangent

9. How to Raise Masculine Sons and Feminine Daughters

10. Telling Your Kids What You Don’t Want to Tell Them

11. "Rock and Role Model

Appendix:

The Meaning of Headship in the New Testament

Study/Discussion Guide

Acknowledgments

In 1977, I had lunch with Ray Stedman at the Elks Club in Palo Alto, California. Ray, who is now with the Lord, had been pastor of Peninsula Bible Church since 1951. I was a twenty-seven-year-old rookie pastor in my first church.

As we were talking, I mentioned my interest in writing. Ray, who had published numerous books, was very encouraging. Then he said, “Steve, let me offer you some advice. Don’t publish until you’re forty.” In that moment, I saw my entire life pass before my eyes. Thirteen years? That sounded like an eternity. Now it’s here. And so is the book.

A number of people played strategic roles in enabling this book to become a reality.

• Dr. John Reed and Scott Ford were key players in the early stages.

• Thanks to Stu Weber for recounting his own combat experiences in Vietnam for me. Stu described the experience ...