CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE

A Comprehensive Introduction

DAVID J. AYERS

Christian Marriage: A Comprehensive Introduction

Copyright 2018 David J. Ayers

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I dedicate this book to my wife of more than thirty-five years and best friend for longer than that, Kathleen Burd Ayers.

She was that cute, interesting, popular Hermitage House social-work intern who took a chance on this eccentric, uncool, ex-hippy born-again who was not quite out of the woods. Through adventures and trials across six states, we have built a family and a legacy together under the care and lordship of Jesus Christ. Kathy has had to encourage me far more often than should have been necessary, but she never gave up doing so. She always points me back to God as my anchor, confidence, and hope in good times and bad. Kathy is my steady source of words “fitly spoken” that are like “apples of gold in a setting of silver” (Prov 25:11). This book would not have been finished but for her.

CONTENTS

Preface

Acknowledgments

Introduction: A Priceless Jewel in a Plain Brown Wrapper

PART 1: GOD’S BOUNDARIES AND PURPOSES FOR MARRIAGE

Introduction to Part 1

Chapter 1: What Is Marriage?

Chapter 2: Mutual Help

Chapter 3: Sexual Fulfillment

Chapter 4: Procreation of Children

PART 2: BEFORE MARRIAGE: MATE SELECTION AND PREPARATION FOR MATRIMONY

Introduction to Part 2

Choosing a Partner in the Lord

Chapter 6: Practical Wisdom in Choosing a Marriage Partner

Chapter 7: A Call to Premarital Sexual Integrity

Chapter 8: Confronting the Dating Culture

Chapter 9: Doing Premarital Preparation the Right Way

PART 3: DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE

Introduction to Part 3

Chapter 10: The Bible and Christian Doctrine on Divorce and Remarriage

Chapter 11: The Modern Divorce Plague

Chapter 12: Ruin and Wreckage: The Effects of Divorce

PART 4: MARITAL HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS

Introduction to Part 4

Chapter 13: The Beautiful Order of Christian Marriage

Chapter 14: Marital Satisfaction and Happiness

Chapter 15: Recommendations for the Church

Bibliography

Subject Index

Name Index

Scripture Index

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About Christian Marriage: A Comprehensive Introduction

Why should we care about marriage?

There is a lot of confusion about the purpose of marriage today—outside the church as well as within it. Written by a distinguished Christian sociologist, Christian Marriage is a theologically rich, biblically robust, and sociologically informed treatise on the nature and value of marriage. Drawing on recent social science research, empirical data, and social history, David J. Ayers paints a picture of marriage as an institution meant for human flourishing.

Along the way, Ayers addresses such topics as

• Dating and selection of a spouse

• The importance of premarital counseling

• Sex and procreation

• Mentoring and supporting unmarried believers

• Divorce and remarriage

• And current controversies surrounding premarital sex and same-sex marriage.

Though the book is academically and theologically informed, it is written with a pastoral heart. It seeks to provide a rich resource for pastors and counselors on a topic of supreme importance to a vibrant church and society.

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