Praise for Fight Fair!

Conflict is common to all marriages. What MOST marriages don’t have is a blueprint for resolving conflict when it occurs. Tim and Joy not only share with you THE most effective blueprint, but they will give you the practical tools and coaching needed in marriages today. Buy and apply this book! It’ll revolutionize your relationship.

Dr. Dennis Rainey
President, Family Life

All couples fight. Tim and Joy Downs offer inspirational and doable coaching for couples who want to strengthen their love in the midst of inevitable conflict.

Dr. Tim Kimmel
Author of Grace Based Parenting

WINNING AT CONFLICT

WITHOUT LOSING

AT LOVE

MOODY PUBLISHERS
CHICAGO

© 2003, 2010 BY
TIM AND JOY DOWNS

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Edited by Cheryl Dunlop (2003) and Pam Pugh (2010) Interior and cover design: Smartt Guys design

LIBRARY OF CONGRESS CATALOGING-IN-PUBLICATION DATA
Downs, Tim.
  Fight fair! : winning at conflict without losing at love / Tim and Joy Downs.
      p. cm.
  Includes bibliographical references.
  ISBN: 978-0-8024-1428-1
  1. Marriage-Religious aspects—Christianity 2. Conflict management—Religious aspects—Christianity. I. Downs, Joy. II. Title.

BV835.D685 2003
306.872—dc21

                          2003007613

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